Reddit users defend man who did not tell his wife a crime was committed in their house

A Reddit User’s Dilemma: To Disclose or Not to Disclose the History of a House

A Reddit user whose wife moved out of their house after she discovered a crime took place there before she moved in did nothing wrong by not telling her about the house’s history, other Reddit users insisted — but a communications expert told Fox News Digital the situation is far more complicated. 

The Background

“AITAH for not telling my wife the history of the house I bought?” asked Reddit user “Pleasant-Tear3205” in a May 6 post on Reddit’s “AITAH” subreddit.

“AITAH” stands for “Am I the a–hole here,” a site for users to share conflicts with others and then receive opinions and judgments in return.

The House Purchase

In the post, the writer said he’s 34, and that nine years ago, he bought a house, as he “wanted nothing more than to live on a few acres of land in a quiet house with my dogs” (he did not share his location).  

He looked for “months” for a house with no luck, he said. 

The Revelation

“Finally, a [real estate professional] asked me if I would mind if the house had a bit of a history,” said Pleasant-Tear3205. 

“I said it would depend (wouldn’t want anyone showing up with a baseball bat to collect an unpaid debt),” the man shared with others.

Instead, he was informed that a murder-suicide had occurred in the house a few years earlier.

The Purchase Decision

Unfazed, Pleasant-Tear3205 said he “didn’t think much of it and agreed to view the house” — which he ended up buying, as it had “four bedrooms and two bathrooms and is on three acres of land.” 

“The asking price was $481,000, which I knew was a steal,” he said. “The realtor agreed it would be at least $100,000 more if it weren’t for the fact that a high-profile crime had occurred in it.” 

The man said he put in an offer below the asking price, “and miraculously the owner agreed.” 

The Wife’s Discovery

“When I took her to my house for the first time, she fell in love with it,” he said. 

That is — until she recently learned what happened there so many years ago. 

“Apparently the elderly woman told her, ‘Oh, the old Johnson house? Terrible what happened there’ and explained everything.”

The Wife’s Reaction

“The other day, Jennifer was at the grocery store, and she got into a conversation with an elderly woman. The woman asked where she lived, and Jennifer described the location,” he said. 

“Apparently the elderly woman told her, ‘Oh, the old Johnson house? Terrible what happened there’ and explained everything,” the man shared in his post.

This new information did not sit well with his wife — who “got home in a panic.” 

“She told me that we lived in the ‘old Johnson house,’ which confused me, as I had never heard that name. Then she told me about the murder-suicide, to which I responded that I knew about it but never really cared,” he said.

“Jennifer got slack-jawed and said she couldn’t live in a place where something so terrible had happened.”

The Current Situation

Pleasant-Tear3205 reminded her, he said, “that that’s what she had been doing for the past year-and-a-half.” 

His wife then “dramatically fled the house with a suitcase to stay with her parents,” and is now arguing with her husband about selling the house. 

“She seems really upset about my not telling her, but as I said before, I legitimately didn’t care enough to even remember,” he said.

The Expert’s Opinion

An etiquette and communications expert told Fox News Digital that the situation is very complicated — and that there really is no “right” answer to this dilemma.

“Perhaps she could consider how happy she’s been, prior to learning of the incident.”

“In the case of husband and [wife] Jennifer, it’s not whether he was right or wrong. It comes down to personal angst, superstitions, or she likes to be informed,” Rosalinda Randall, a California-based civility and etiquette speaker, told Fox News Digital in an email.

Randall suggested that perhaps the wife should seek counseling to better cope with her angst at the house — or maybe she could learn details about the incident to put her mind at ease.

“Perhaps she could consider how happy she’s been, prior to learning of the incident,” said Randall. 

Her reaction to the news and sudden move out of the house, however, could be a sign that their relationship may not be as solid as Pleasant-Tear3205 thought it was, she said. 

Since phone conversations have proven fruitless, Pleasant-Tear3205 could consider meeting with her at her parents’ house, and “possibly include her parents in the conversations.” 

“Note to parents: Mom and Dad, either stay out of it or talk to your daughter about how marriage works,” Randall said. 

The Reddit Community’s Response

Without “communication and listening to one another,” the expert said, “the relationship is doomed.” 

SDGs, Targets, and Indicators

1. No Poverty

• Target 1.4: By 2030, ensure that all men and women, in particular the poor and the vulnerable, have equal rights to economic resources, as well as access to basic services, ownership, and control over land and other forms of property, inheritance, natural resources, appropriate new technology, and financial services, including microfinance.
• Indicator 1.4.2: Proportion of total adult population with secure tenure rights to land, with legally recognized documentation and who perceive their rights to land as secure, by sex and by type of tenure.

5. Gender Equality

• Target 5.4: Recognize and value unpaid care and domestic work through the provision of public services, infrastructure, and social protection policies and the promotion of shared responsibility within the household and the family as nationally appropriate.
• Indicator 5.4.1: Proportion of time spent on unpaid domestic and care work, by sex, age, and location.

11. Sustainable Cities and Communities

• Target 11.1: By 2030, ensure access for all to adequate, safe, and affordable housing and basic services and upgrade slums.
• Indicator 11.1.1: Proportion of urban population living in slums, informal settlements, or inadequate housing.

16. Peace, Justice, and Strong Institutions

• Target 16.7: Ensure responsive, inclusive, participatory, and representative decision-making at all levels.
• Indicator 16.7.1: Proportions of positions (by sex, age, persons with disabilities, and population groups) in public institutions (national and local legislatures, public service, and judiciary) compared to national distributions.

Analysis

1. The SDGs addressed or connected to the issues highlighted in the article are No Poverty, Gender Equality, Sustainable Cities and Communities, and Peace, Justice, and Strong Institutions.

2. Specific targets under those SDGs identified based on the article’s content are:
– Target 1.4: Ensuring equal rights to economic resources and access to basic services.
– Target 5.4: Recognizing and valuing unpaid care and domestic work.
– Target 11.1: Ensuring access to adequate, safe, and affordable housing and basic services.
– Target 16.7: Ensuring responsive, inclusive, participatory, and representative decision-making.

3. Indicators mentioned or implied in the article that can be used to measure progress towards the identified targets are:
– Indicator 1.4.2: Proportion of total adult population with secure tenure rights to land.
– Indicator 5.4.1: Proportion of time spent on unpaid domestic and care work.
– Indicator 11.1.1: Proportion of urban population living in slums, informal settlements, or inadequate housing.
– Indicator 16.7.1: Proportions of positions in public institutions compared to national distributions.

4. Table presenting the findings from analyzing the article:

| SDGs | Targets | Indicators |
|——|———|————|
| No Poverty | Target 1.4: By 2030, ensure that all men and women, in particular the poor and the vulnerable, have equal rights to economic resources, as well as access to basic services, ownership, and control over land and other forms of property, inheritance, natural resources, appropriate new technology, and financial services, including microfinance. | Indicator 1.4.2: Proportion of total adult population with secure tenure rights to land, with legally recognized documentation and who perceive their rights to land as secure, by sex and by type of tenure. |
| Gender Equality | Target 5.4: Recognize and value unpaid care and domestic work through the provision of public services, infrastructure, and social protection policies and the promotion of shared responsibility within the household and the family as nationally appropriate. | Indicator 5.4.1: Proportion of time spent on unpaid domestic and care work, by sex, age, and location. |
| Sustainable Cities and Communities | Target 11.1: By 2030, ensure access for all to adequate, safe, and affordable housing and basic services and upgrade slums. | Indicator 11.1.1: Proportion of urban population living in slums, informal settlements, or inadequate housing. |
| Peace, Justice, and Strong Institutions | Target 16.7: Ensure responsive, inclusive, participatory, and representative decision-making at all levels. | Indicator 16.7.1: Proportions of positions (by sex, age, persons with disabilities, and population groups) in public institutions (national and local legislatures, public service, and judiciary) compared to national distributions. |

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